INTRODUCTION

I Have This…...

Since childhood, I have this fear of the stage and I have faced a lot of challenges in my life, at times I have missed many opportunities in day-to-day life the main reason is that I cannot talk effectively in front of people due to this fear. Last few years working on my skills at the same time identified that we have only two types of stage fears External Fear or Visible Fear and Internal Fear or Invisible Fear.

In the same manner, we have two kinds of people on this planet, number one, who loves talking in front of people, and number two, who is scared of talking in front of people. Person one, who loves to talk in front of people, and if you look at the difference between person one and person two, who love speaking, who’s scared of speaking in front of people. There is a huge difference with regards to their activities which they will be doing they’ll be doing these four activities before giving any speech, before giving any Presentation.

1. They will "Prepare" the speech whatever they want to prepare they will be preparing the first step would be to prepare.
2. They will understand about the "Content" what kind of content they need to prepare number one prepare and number two work on their content
3. They’ll gather everything and form as a "Speech"
4. Which is more important you need to "Know who is Your Audience"

Because without knowing your audience you cannot speak yes, of course, you can speak but there could be huge variation for example, if you are giving a speech in medical college, will you prepare a story from an electrical engineer or a medicine-related or a doctor related story?

In the same way, if you are giving a speech in a college where they have all the engineers and do you give a speech on physicians or doctors? If your answer is Yes, then you can give but which is not related to that situation, which is not related to that event.

What I strongly believe is you need to know your audience which is the heart of your preparation, which is the heart of your talk. If you have these four things "Preparation", "Content" and you’re ready with your "Speech" final "You need to know about your Audience" then you will be having a huge scope but to achieve anything in your life, anything in your life especially to kill your stage fear and talk effectively in front of people you need to remember this three P-P-P, 3P’s are enough to talk effectively in front of people

# First (1P) which is "Practice"

Whatever you have gathered
Whatever you have jotted down
Whatever you have prepared, you need to practice that

#Second (2P) which is slightly important than the first "P" which is Practice second P Practice. In first (1P) you need to have little practice at second (2P) you need to have huge practice, huge practice

#Third (3P) which is very important, very important in order to deliver a beautiful speech, beautiful talk which is the final "P" which is also Practice...

Yes, "PRACTICE", "PRACTICE", "PRACTICE" is the only key to have a beautiful speech in order to deliver an effective presentation in front of any people, you don’t want what kind of people they are but to prepare a content yes, we need to understand what kind of people your audience is but after preparing everything when we are ready to talk effectively in front of people doesn’t matter who they are,

You are "KING" at that point, you are king you need to talk whatever you want which is related to that audience by which audience can take action from your speech. If you agree with me how many "P’s" you will be doing in your life for any speech or talk

1^st P which is the Practice (Slight Practice) or
2^nd P which is also Practice (Huge Practice) or
3^rd P which is also Practice (Repeated Practice)

Now, which kind of Practice you will be doing, if you have these three P’s then definitely, I believe you have a huge scope of killing your fear,

Killing your fear whatever might be the fear not only in speaking.

If you relate to cricket,
If you relate to basketball,
If you relate to football

Whatever it might be, any skill or any sport if you have practice then you can rock and you will be “KING” for that particular skill!!

What is the best lesson I’ve learned as a trainer?

One of the best things I have learned as a trainer is “saying NO” but you might be thinking of saying no to what? saying no for what? I don’t know What does it mean?

Let’s take an example if you ask me about the skill which I have learned, I can easily train you because I know the pain behind it, I know the struggle behind it because I have spent a huge amount of time, money, and resources to acquire that skill, but if you ask anything which I have not learned, then just a few years ago, I may not say no. I’ll say yes even if I don’t know the answer, the reason I have fear of saying “no”, but every question I used to say, yes, I can, I will but the moment I realized the importance of no, I have stopped saying "NO".

Stop saying no for what? If I know the answer to any question, I will say yes, if I don’t know the answer to any question, I will say no. That doesn’t mean that if anyone asked a question regarding my skill, definitely I will tell if I don’t know, I will research, I will refer, I’ll check all my resources, which I have and I will tell but I‘m talking about the skill which I have not learned. I don’t know about it.

Let’s take an example. I never played the guitar if you’re asking something that is the note of a tune, I might say you can play like this, which means I’m unnecessarily misleading you because I don’t know that skill. I never touched a guitar in my life but when it comes to suggestions, yes, I have given because I don’t know how to say no.

What’s the importance of No? I just realized two years ago, at the end of 2018, I have realized the importance of saying no the moment I have learned saying no, but not for all the scenarios wherever it is not related to my skill, which I have not traveled in my life, which I have not faced in my life, I will say no Whatever am expert or whatever I have learned, whatever I have trained, trained on it, I will give my suggestions, I will give my beliefs on it, I give my perspective on it, that’s for sure.

Saying no is very painful to adopt it initially because it needs huge guts. Initially, I don’t have that slowly I have built that to say no, were needed because training is not something which we need to deliver continuously if someone asks any question, which is out of the syllabus, out of the box, you don’t know, don’t blindly answer it, just mention a common statement that’s an interesting question, by the way, I don’t know that, that’s a new question for me you need to be genuine to the anyone who you’re talking, whether it might be your family or your colleague.

Remember one thing, the moment you build genuine within you the same thing will replicate or portray to the audience or the people around you but if you hide something if you hide because I’ll focus on yourself itself, yourself is the key to success or to achieve anything, believe in yourself, trust in yourself, build confidence in yourself, boost up yourself where everything is related to yourself. If you are the person who does everything appropriately, then you will be somewhere not only this skill, whatever might be the skill if you learn with passion if you learn with certain commitments, and definitely, you will be somewhere but if you are the person, don’t know what to do, how to do but just for namesake, you’re doing it. It may not work because self-confidence plays a major role throughout your life. Just imagine that in every situation, wherever you want to tell you can talk confidently when you have a belief and confidence within you just learn towards it.

Remember, to say no when you don’t know the answers, when you don’t know that skill, when that question is out of your syllabus, out of your mind, out of your knowledge, say no. Don’t be shy, be genuine, be authentic to the person, the people they can understand, they can easily adopt that they can easily take that because they feel that yes, this person is genuine.

If you don’t know just say I don’t know. That means we can trust this person, whatever the question we have yes, I know. Yes, I know. This is the answer but that may not work it out. That’s not an appropriate way or it’s kind of negative-minded people just focus on positive-minded people what do positive-minded people will do, to learn certain things.

Before 2018 and I'm into the same impression where you are but once I have learned this and I have adopted it and I have succeeded. A huge amount of differences, before learning those skills, after learning those skills. Which completely changed my life. I guarantee you that it will change your life as well if you focus if you practice. Let’s focus...!!!

“Don’t stop learning irrespective of your age”

Let’s First Find Yourself

To build self-confidence, you need to do one thing, first you to do one thing. What is that? “Find yourself” it seems the question was something awkward. Yes, you’re right. First, find yourself, because for many years you might be struggling to portray your best image or your covering original image or character, how long you will be living for others, it’s your life let’s start living for us kill your emotions start portraying your best image by learning certain skills, how to portray that we have n-number of skills where you can build your confidence and portray what you are?